Or so my boyfriend tells me. I guess he should know because he became deaf at the age of 23. At the time he was a factory worker and he has since gone on to get a masters degree and become a professor at a well known university. That transition would certainly be what I call a miracle. I am in need of a many miracles at the moment for various and assorted reasons I won’t bore you with. Mine are beginning to show a glimmer of light in the distance, so I would like to pass on some small bit of wisdom about how miracles can happen to you.
- Don’t try to make it happen: Too, too, too many people try to control, manipulate, and insist that things happen the way they want. You can’t make miracles happen. You can make something happen, but miracles are not in your control. I know of a man who is very controlling and manipulative, and he is constantly insisting that everything be in his control and happen the way he wants. This same man is always complaining about his bad luck. Duh! When you make it happen (unless its a job task or something you are required to do professionally), it interferes with the way things are supposed to happen, which is what miracles are!
- Don’t sit around and wait: This is the opposite of making it happen. Many people get in such a tizz over their issues that instead of carrying on with their days, they become virtually paralyzed, think obsessively, have panic attacks, and hyperventilate.
- Breathe: The breath is the greatest gift we have been given. No matter what your state of mind, stop every now and then, and watch yourself breathe. It’s a most fascinating thing, to put your mind onto your breathing — in, out, in, out. And it is astonishingly soothing. Beats Xanax for sure!
- Live: Once you have figured out how to breathe again, your next step is to simply live. Go about your days, focus on the task at hand, take control of your thoughts when they start to wander to unsettling things, but be gentle in the process.
- Do good work: Ah, for me there’s nothing more comforting and reassuring than doing good work. First, it requires presence of mind, second, it has a beginning and an end, and third, it affords a terrific sense of self-esteem for a job well-done.
- Let go of it: They say let go and let God in Twelve Step groups, but even just the concept of let go is tremendously valuable. The thing we all do is hope, pray, and wish for a certain outcome. We need money, a new car, improved health. But that’s not how it works. Miracles are very independent creatures. You need money to pay the mortgage? Suddenly you get a call for a new job that pays twice what you make now. Or the county wants to buy your house for a new road going through. That’s how it works. Things happen, and they happen when and how you least expect.
So, Merry Christmas, and here’s to your miracles!